Most of us pose hardened questions on the issue of marriage for which we are unable to find answers within. Most of us find it tough to maintain our marital relationship over the course of years and always demand fulfilment of our expectations from the Other Half. Does the fault lie in our spouse or do we actually fail to see ourselves from within whatever our spouse brings before us?
Marriage involves the legal/social union of two persons in a consensual relationship. Although each of the two individuals comes from a different set of upbringing, ideals, background, society, etc both share something in common which acts as a catalyst for their eternal union of Love (without any barriers, conditions, specifications, or measurements).
In marriage, differences start to surface through trivial quarrels which sometimes convert into major fights, with each of the spouse trying to win the argument over the other wanting to stamp the authority of who’s right over who’s wrong and the need to change the other’s “perceived wrong” habits grows stronger. Over the course of fights, we do become aware as to the situations in which the said fights occur and try to reason its outbreak. Through identifying the cause of fights, both spouses then start reaching to a consensus of solving these problems jointly. Both are ready to recognize each other through these differences. Consequently, both start to understand that the roots to these differences can be traced to the beliefs that one carries. These beliefs have not been made instantly but have been carried through their lifetime. This is the point where both spouses really understand the true perspectives of the other and go ahead to say- “Well there’s no harm in the manner she/he thinks and believes. It seems that I was the one who was over-reacting and never understood her/him. ” This turns to be the focal point of letting go of our water-tight expectations from our spouse and we stop making attempts to mould the other in a manner we wanted them to be.
The moment we acknowledge, understand, and accept the perspectives, choices and habits of our spouse, the mutual respect develops for each other and we are able to experience the bliss of love from the other. Eventually we imbibe additional features into our system of what our spouse represents, thereby leading to experience our growth. After all, we experience what we are from the core- Unconditional Love.
Marriage allows us to embark on the beautiful journey of recognizing our being, our identity within.
So for me, Marriage is, in fact, the sacred union of Me with Self.
Wish you all a blissful marital life 😊
Marriage involves the legal/social union of two persons in a consensual relationship. Although each of the two individuals comes from a different set of upbringing, ideals, background, society, etc both share something in common which acts as a catalyst for their eternal union of Love (without any barriers, conditions, specifications, or measurements).
In marriage, differences start to surface through trivial quarrels which sometimes convert into major fights, with each of the spouse trying to win the argument over the other wanting to stamp the authority of who’s right over who’s wrong and the need to change the other’s “perceived wrong” habits grows stronger. Over the course of fights, we do become aware as to the situations in which the said fights occur and try to reason its outbreak. Through identifying the cause of fights, both spouses then start reaching to a consensus of solving these problems jointly. Both are ready to recognize each other through these differences. Consequently, both start to understand that the roots to these differences can be traced to the beliefs that one carries. These beliefs have not been made instantly but have been carried through their lifetime. This is the point where both spouses really understand the true perspectives of the other and go ahead to say- “Well there’s no harm in the manner she/he thinks and believes. It seems that I was the one who was over-reacting and never understood her/him. ” This turns to be the focal point of letting go of our water-tight expectations from our spouse and we stop making attempts to mould the other in a manner we wanted them to be.
The moment we acknowledge, understand, and accept the perspectives, choices and habits of our spouse, the mutual respect develops for each other and we are able to experience the bliss of love from the other. Eventually we imbibe additional features into our system of what our spouse represents, thereby leading to experience our growth. After all, we experience what we are from the core- Unconditional Love.
Marriage allows us to embark on the beautiful journey of recognizing our being, our identity within.
So for me, Marriage is, in fact, the sacred union of Me with Self.
Wish you all a blissful marital life 😊
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